How to Get over a Girl you liked or Loved
Life plays a lot of tricks on us. Totally out of the blue, when you expected it the least, this one girl appeared and she liked you. You couldn’t believe it was going so good, you could not trust your eyes, and after the first “tests” of your relationship you were still hitting it off so well.
You thought, if we have been through this, she must be that one girl.
Important Update Guys,[ 5.01.2012 ] -
Hey Guys,
Since I wrote this article the first time I had a lot of guys message me about this problem. Interestingly some people seemed to have found a solution to this problem.
My buddy Lerome told me managed to win his girl back ( a total keeper ). I didn’t believe him at first but later on I realized they were back together.
Pretty amazing. I asked him what his solution was….and….well read to the end of the article…I wrote it down there
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Well thought wrong. At some point no matter if after a few days or after a few months, something happened and things started turning worse and worse. She is not responding your texts and not picking up the phone, she is not chasing you anymore. Or maybe you nexted her, but it didn’t turn out as you wanted it to be and now you regret it.
In any case the fire is burned out and now you need to live without her. When having had a person so close to you, defining your every day to day life, making you happier, it feels empty and weird without her. I have been several times myself at this reoccurring point. Read on, if you want to know how to deal with such a situation.
How to get over a Girlfriend – Accepting the Situation-
First things first – There is one thing you need to learn. Every relationship can break. You are never secure. There is a point where your girl has lost this image of you being her man in her eyes. It’s over then. Total game over, all lives burned.
You need to accept this hard truth to move on. Because the tricky part is that the fire may be lost, but you can keep pushing her buttons and behaving in a reaction seeking way towards her – and getting the reactions.
You keep texting her, offending her, begging her, whining for her. She may respond, she may not.
You need to man the fuck up though. Is this who you are supposed to be? Do you want to end up like this?
The Fear – letting go, is there anything better for me?
The Fear. You don’t know what else there is out there in the world.
It is your choice. Either you can cling to your old succeses, to your old life, way pasts it’s date of expiry or you can ask the world if there is more for you out there, something more special, something that is more true for you.
-Playing your Cards right – the best Way to get over a Girl
You need to play your cards right. This means one of two things: You will either go for other girls and search your luck there, maybe girlfriends you were keeping on talking to while you were with your girlfriend or if that does not seem like a good solution, take the time out of the feminine world and start working on your business, your passions, your hobbies.
Forget about sex and girls, clear up your mind, get ready to focuss and rock your world in a new way. Playing your cards right, means accepting the situation that is, seeing what you can do, and eventually seeing the good side of things if there is any.
Focusing on your career, hobbies, passions or other girls means eliminating distractions. Be honest, if you can’t stand having the girls number in your phone, having her on facebook or whatever, man the fuck up again, make your decision about moving on and letting her go forever and kill the phone number and facebook contacts.
It may be that you will feel a sudden relief and new won clarity in your life. A more peaceful reality could come up, and then you know you did the right thing. Rest in this peacefulness, it means great and new things will come up.
Ways to get over a Girl – Learning Something out of the Situation -
Ask yourself – what is the lesson. Mostly you will only see the lesson and the good side effects of the relationship and the break up after it’s done or during your emotional shift from being attached to her, to being free in mind and spirit.
Don’t waste the lesson. It is your next lesson for your next relationship. Ask yourself, where the fuck did I loose the girl? What did I do, that made me repel her. What was the essence behind that.
“Did I need to have cut the relationship a lot earlier?”
Don’t be sad if you spend a lot of time thinking about her and if you feel like everything was a waste. What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger. You learn from it, and if you don’t the least you become more mature and emotionally centered and you will know better what you want out of life.
And tap yourself on the shoulder you are not one of those people who were stuck in something that was never meant to be.
Hmmmm My buddy was having severe problems with getting over his ex. He spent week after week, literally months, not getting out of the house and being angry and depressed and being frustrated not knowing what to do.
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5.01.2012:
Well, one day he messages me on facebook after I already thought he was crazy: “Dude, I got my girl back”.
I told him that’s amazing but didn’t believe him, but after a while when we hung out again, I realized he is forreal.
He swears on this one book . He said I must include it in my guide ( I originally wrote this for him. I wanted to help him and make his life better again ). I said haha, are you in school class or why the heck you read a book. But he really insisted that this book gave him the exact strategies on what to do and he literally applied them and got his girl back within 48 hours. Well I don’t believe everything he says, but I can’t deny they are back together.
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Well if you want to be chilling out late night with your girl again, cuddling with her in bed, kissing her and protecting her from other macho dudes hitting on her, then maybe you should really consider taking Lerome’s advices. You really have absolutely nothing to loose and absolutely everything to gain. Be a man and take action. Otherwise don’t forget there is so many other girls out there and you will make it and find a new girl as long as you believe in yourself.
Fare well my friend, fare well
What if you have kids with her?? It’s not so easy then, because you have to see her. I love my kids but its just not working with us and she knows this to but we don’t want to let go. We still want each other but we know it has to end. She said she’s putting it to an end. What should I do???, please give me some advice
Hey J.c.
Interesting – you two still love each other, but you have points where it is not working out in the relationship. I just read a great article about this topic, i am going to send it to your email, it’s about debunking relationship myths!
If the situation is though more dramatic..this happened to my sis:
she lived in mexico with her husband and 2 kids, but over the years, the relationship stalled out and because her husband would just be blind towards what she wanted him to improve, she just took the kids and flew back to Germany ( hi i am german ^^ ) and now she is here.
So yes, things like this happen.
Hope this helped in some way
CF-Team
Oh here is the article http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/26
The site looks a little bit spammy but the content is good
This may be self explanatory, but Im going to ask anyway,, my problem is I recently started hanging out with this girl, and totally fallen for her, nothing “labeled”, but we’ve been hanging out constantly and even hooked up a couple times. Problem is, I was just visiting home, and even though I come home every holiday, I pretty much know, in the nicest way I could say it possible, she’s a whore. Infact it wouldnt surprise me at all if she’s with another guy right now. Even though I know this, I can’t stop thinking about her. Any tips to help me get over this?
Forgot to add, it’s not some random girl, It’s a girl I’ve had a thing for, for a longgg, time. We just never started hanging out until recently.
Hey James first of congrats on hooking up with her, it’s cool to know you’ve had a thing for her a long time and then hooked up with her, that’s a great success man, pat yourself on the shoulder !
Okay- I hope I am getting you right:
You are developing feelings for her, but you think she is just the “whore” who sleeps around and won’t care about you.
2 recommendations I have:
- Don’t be afraid that she doesn’t care. Yes you may look stupid if you tell her, that you think about her, and yes, maybe she just really sleeps around with a lot of guys, but you can only win out of this, because either maybe she will really like you then or she does already, or you will grow as a man because you go through experience and learn from it!
- If it turns out, she doesn’t care about you and she is just a “whore”, well then screw her. Pat yourself on the shoulder for having hooked up with her while liking her before that for a long time ( cool success !
– my congratulations as well ). You should always have the confidence that you can repeat what you did there and hook up with another girl, and just get better over time with girls in general !:)
Hope that helped
CF-Team AKA Skyy
I’m at a point where I cannot get out of my bed… We have been talking for a long time, and hanging out and felt our relationship was getting stronger and stronger. However I am in college so I am currently in winter break resulting in being away from each other. However we contacted each other everyday and skyped each other every day and still felt our relationship was getting stronger and stronger and the both of us agreed that we are going somewhere. All of a sudden out of nowhere, the next day after we had our normal skype date she ignored my first text. I thought to myself ohh shes probby at work so gave it a few hours. Waiting and waiting I left her another msg and still no response. Yes feeling overwhlemed was one thing but I was concern that something might of happned to her so I contacted her in any other possible way. She finally responded saying, I didn;t get any msgs which I knew was bs and just the way she talked I knew something was off. The vibe was different. Every guy knows somethngs up by the way they talk, text etc.. Later on she told me that we should just be friends for now because everything is going too fast and she feels like someone is going to get hurt.. she said that she is doing this for the best of us?I am also in the army and she told me that since im in the army, things might get tougher for us too. I do;t get how a girl can change that much within the next 12hrs. She literally went to bed then woke up and changed like that.. How can a girl that once told me that she loved me do this.. What is the meaning of this? and if its something I should get over, how can I do so?
Hmmmm
My buddy was having very difficult problems getting over his ex. He was able to deal with it though. He got his ex back and I wouldn’t believe him but he dealt amazingly with the situation.
He really recommends this book >> Click Here <<
I haven’t read it yet, the guy seems trust worthy. If any of you gets this book tell me.
I need help and I have tried everything but somehow this girl always gets the best of me and I love her more then life it self but and she says she loves me to but doesn’t want to be with me cause she says she won’t lose me …..I really ran out of options….nothing makes sense now anymore,what should I do?
Could you help me with this problem? I am not an adult, only in High School. Yet there is a girl that I have liked since 6th grade. She was WAY out of my league. Then a few weeks ago I asked her out, she told me that we should talk more. I was excited and then it just kind of went away. I talked to her probably one time in 2 weeks. Then a few days ago she was having a problem with her ex and I talked to her about it and she and I talked the rest of the day. Now it is back to no conversations. I just am really exhausted with it, I like her and she knows it. I even think she might like me a bit as well with what she mentioned sometimes. I don’t know, and yes I understand that I am only in high school but I really have liked this girl for a long time. Any tips that I could use to either forget about her that are not mentioned above, or if you know ways to get her to maybe talk to me more.
Anything will help right now.
Thanks
I need your help, I met my mates cousin at a party and we hit it off, she lives in London but the next month we talked on the phone everyday and she told me that she liked me. From there we didn’t stop talking to each other and I was really in love with her and so was she. Even though I had only known her a few months it felt like we had been together for ages. Then one day she started ignoring my texts and now she just said things have changed and no longer speaks to me, I’m heartbroken and don’t want it to end, what should I do ?
At the end of the day all you have is yoself so dnt think ppl gne hold you dwn or have yo back and in the end you go in the dirt by yoself thats why im on my own from now on if you wit me thats what up n if you not die slow bitch
So iv been talking to this girl for about 2 years iv always had a thing for her since I met her we recently started like “talking” about 7 months ago about 3 months into it I ask her to be my girlfriend her response was of course a no, first off we live about 50 miles from each other but more then half her family lives in my town where both seniors in high school too, so anyway she rejects my offer but we keep what we had we talk every day almost all day and well we “hook up” just about every time we see each other, there’s was
Even a point where we say I love you to each other, so I try again in february if she wanted to be my girlfriend again she rejects so we have the “talk” so we love each other (wich is very hard for her to admit to it, which I hate cuz I love the feeling of being loved) and we “hook up” see each other on weekends and talk all the time so we tried to find out what we are? She said basicly friends with benefits with extra feelings so I’m like okay… I mean I love this girl I don’t want to lose her also were both going to different colleges but I still wan things to work okay so current day things been going bad and it’s killing me I don’t eat I’m sad all the time I can’t get her out of my mind every little thing reminds me of her, started few days ago she doesn’t text me as much she never wants to talk on the phone like we usually do she caresless, it feels like where one argument away from ending what ever we have, I’m scared to lose her cuz idk wht I’m going to do if I hear she’s with another guy or see something that reminds me of her I guess I sound pretty pathetic but still.. If theres anything that y’all know that can help please I’m open to any information
I have liked someone for a very long time and i felt like they liked me. We had not gotten together or anything serious, but she knew how much i loved her. She has always been flirty with me and she seemed to be taking an interest in me. However this spring break she went out and hooked up with a few different guys. This has really hurt me a lot, and i now think she was just leading me on. Even though i am almost sure she does not like me, i can’t bring myself to accept it, and i am having a hard time focusing on anything because of her. Please give suggestions for what i can do to make my time getting over her easier, or even getting her “back”.
Hey,
So I don’t even know why Im googling questions like this, Its never been my mo to let a girl get to my head cause I’ve been with a lot of girls and definitely gotten broken up with before…but this was weird, long story short so I dont bore with details…I’ve known this girl over a year, we were on for a while but nothing real serious and then I found someone else and she did to, those people didnt work out for either of us and we both kinda joked about our awful choices and basically re-bonded and got serious, she had been telling me she was head over heals for me and really loved me but I didnt say it for a while cause I wanted to be sure, I don’t like to drop “love” like its candy cause it really loses it meaning, but finally about a week and a half ago I did because I realized I really do want to be with her. Well literally out of no where 2 days ago she starts getting distant and I asked about it and she said she was dealing with family stuff and I said what I thought was best “Im sorry you know Im here to talk to and help you, but if you dont I’ll give you space” and things seemed ok calling me babe, all that shit and then yesterday she says I dont think I can do this, I think we should break things off. And it hit me, I dont want to let her go, I want her! What made her do a 180 from being like I love you, I want to run away with you, yeah people say that joking around but it still means something….how do things just flip flop like that…at first she offered the explanation that the distance (she lives in mass and Im in Philly but I go to college in RI)…so I was like I dont care, Ill do whatever I have to do as far as distance and she changed to idk I just dont get butterflies with you anymore, Im just not ready for a relationship. Are girls really just this fucked emotionally, or was I just a challenge to see if she could get me to fall for her? I dont get, I just need to know what I did cause Im honestly brooding over this day and night and depressed. I need to get out of this rut, and then worst part is I have other girls I can talk to but I just dont want to. Im not myself, what the fuck did this girl do to me?
I recently went through a break up and im heartbroken. Im not that old but I know I fell in love with her. She said the relationship got awkward. I did not believe her but I didn’t get into details. I want her back but it seems as though she isn’t interested. I don’t want to move on but really I don’t know. My past life I played girls and I am doing it again. Every girl I see I imagine her. I need help. Please I am a moody teen lol.